| And for him to feel good about himself, he must achieve these goals alone, by himself. To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn't know what to do or that he can't do it on his own. Men are very touchy about this, because the issue of competence is so very important to them. However, if the man truly does need help, then it's a sign of wisdom to get it. In this case, he'll find someone he respects and then talk about his problem. Talking about a problem on Mars is an invitation for advice. Another Martian feels honored by the opportunity. Automatically, he puts on his Mr. Fix-it hat, listens for a few beats, and then offers some advice. This Martian custom is one of the reasons men instinctively offer solutions when a woman talks about her feelings or about her problems. | |
| 而男人要想自我感觉不错，就必须是他自己独立达到这些目标才行。 在男人看来，不请自来的建议就是认为他们不知道该做什么或是不能凭个人的力量获取胜利。他们对此很恼火，因为个人能力对于他们非常重要。然而，如果男人确定需要帮助，取得帮助也是明智之举。在这种情况下，他会和一位自己敬重的人谈论自己的困难。男人之间谈论困难就是请求他人提供意见。被请求的人因此会颇感荣幸，并顺其自然地抒发感想，听对方诉说，然后提出宝贵的建议。男人的这种习惯在一定程度上导致了他们在女人谈论自己的情感和困惑时，本能地提供解决方案。 |
| And for him to feel good about himself, he must achieve these goals alone, by himself. To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn' t know what to do or that he can' t do it on his own. Men are very touchy about this, because the issue of competence is so very important to them. However, if the man truly does need help, then it' s a sign of wisdom to get it. In this case, he' ll find someone he respects and then talk about his problem. Talking about a problem on Mars is an invitation for advice. Another Martian feels honored by the opportunity. Automatically, he puts on his Mr. Fixit hat, listens for a few beats, and then offers some advice. This Martian custom is one of the reasons men instinctively offer solutions when a woman talks about her feelings or about her problems. | |
| er nan ren yao xiang zi wo gan jue bu cuo, jiu bi xu shi ta zi ji du li da dao zhei xie mu biao cai xing. zai nan ren kan lai, bu qing zi lai de jian yi jiu shi ren wei ta men bu zhi dao gai zuo shi mo huo shi bu neng ping ge ren de li liang huo qu sheng li. ta men dui ci hen nao huo, yin wei ge ren neng li dui yu ta men fei chang zhong yao. ran er, ru guo nan ren que ding xu yao bang zhu, qu de bang zhu ye shi ming zhi zhi ju. zai zhe zhong qing kuang xia, ta hui he yi wei zi ji jing zhong de ren tan lun zi ji de kun nan. nan ren zhi jian tan lun kun nan jiu shi qing qiu ta ren ti gong yi jian. bei qing qiu de ren yin ci hui po gan rong xing, bing shun qi zi ran di shu fa gan xiang, ting dui fang su shuo, ran hou ti chu bao gui de jian yi. nan ren de zhe zhong xi guan zai yi ding cheng du shang dao zhi le ta men zai nv ren tan lun zi ji de qing gan he kun huo shi, ben neng di ti gong jie jue fang an. |
| And for him to feel good about himself, he must achieve these goals alone, by himself. To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn' t know what to do or that he can' t do it on his own. Men are very touchy about this, because the issue of competence is so very important to them. However, if the man truly does need help, then it' s a sign of wisdom to get it. In this case, he' ll find someone he respects and then talk about his problem. Talking about a problem on Mars is an invitation for advice. Another Martian feels honored by the opportunity. Automatically, he puts on his Mr. Fixit hat, listens for a few beats, and then offers some advice. This Martian custom is one of the reasons men instinctively offer solutions when a woman talks about her feelings or about her problems. | |
| ér nán rén yào xiǎng zì wǒ gǎn jué bù cuò, jiù bì xū shì tā zì jǐ dú lì dá dào zhèi xiē mù biāo cái xíng. zài nán rén kàn lái, bù qǐng zì lái de jiàn yì jiù shì rèn wéi tā men bù zhī dào gāi zuò shí mǒ huò shì bù néng píng gè rén de lì liàng huò qǔ shèng lì. tā men duì cǐ hěn nǎo huǒ, yīn wèi gè rén néng lì duì yú tā men fēi cháng zhòng yào. rán ér, rú guǒ nán rén què dìng xū yào bāng zhù, qǔ de bāng zhù yě shì míng zhì zhī jǔ. zài zhè zhǒng qíng kuàng xià, tā huì hé yī wèi zì jǐ jìng zhòng de rén tán lùn zì jǐ de kùn nán. nán rén zhī jiān tán lùn kùn nán jiù shì qǐng qiú tā rén tí gōng yì jiàn. bèi qǐng qiú de rén yīn cǐ huì pō gǎn róng xìng, bìng shùn qí zì rán dì shū fā gǎn xiǎng, tīng duì fāng sù shuō, rán hòu tí chū bǎo guì de jiàn yì. nán rén de zhè zhǒng xí guàn zài yí dìng chéng dù shàng dǎo zhì le tā men zài nǚ rén tán lùn zì jǐ de qíng gǎn hé kùn huò shí, běn néng dì tí gōng jiě jué fāng àn. |
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